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Featured Family: Xavier and Joy
Describe your childhood: |
Adoptive Mom? I had a great childhood-full of love and family. My fondest memories were birthday parties; they always had themes and my parents worked hard to make me always feel special. I have always had a very close bond to my parents and it remains strong to this day.
Adoptive Dad? Although I lost my father when I was only 15 years old, I have great memories of my family. My mother worked really hard to help us get through difficult times. She taught us values that made us strong and united as a family.
Tell us about your home?
It is comfortable and colorful. It is full of memories, pictures and love. It is one of the key places that we gather with friends and family. Our home is magical during the holidays.
When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
Relax, kick back and spend quality time together-take walks, go to the pool, have a picnic or friends over. We love to be outside; we also love small nearby get away trips.
Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
We have a very special dog named Cocoa. She weighs about 17 pounds and is a Mutt that was saved from the pound. She is a big part of our lives. She is very loving and loyal and we enjoy spending time with her.
What do you hope to teach your children?
EVERYTHING! Of course as a parent you want to teach your child every life lesson. For us the most important ones include "treating others as you want to be treated" and to embrace and enjoy every moment of life.
Describe your neighborhood?
We live in a gated community that is full of children and families. Our home is close to great schools, parks and shopping centers. It is a safe community with a beautiful pool and clubhouse for lots of different activities.
What will you tell your child about their birthmother?
Our child will be raised with the knowledge of the love that their birthmother had for them. We will help them understand just how wonderful and special she is for wanting to make sure that they have a beautiful life.
It's Daddy's day - what activity do you want to share with your child?
I would spend the day exploring at the park or making sandcastles and splashng in the ocean at the beach. I love outdoor activites and can't wait to share this love with our beautiful daughter.
What kind of education are you hoping to provide for your child - Private or Public?
Either is fine with us. I think the important thing is to research and visit the schools and talk to other parents before making a decision. Once our child starts schoool, we will be parents that are very involved with homework and other school activities.
How did you come to the decision of adoption?
We both love children and wanted to be parents but because we are unable to have children together, we made the decision to adopt. We believe that you do not have to give birth to a child to love them and adoption is a beautiful way of making our dream of being parents a reality.
What faith will you raise your child?
We will raise our child in the Catholic faith.
What kind of a relationship do you hope to build with your birthmom through her pregnancy?
We are very open and would like to build a relationship with our birthmother. We would like to spend time getting to know her so we can share with her child everything we know about her. We want her to always have peace in her heart that she chose the right family to love and care for her child.
How did you meet?
We met in a restaurant-it was one of those quick moments that changes your life-we smiled, we talked and we have never been apart. We met in 2003 and married in 2005.
What was your relationship with your parents like?
Adoptive Mom? My parents divorced and both got remarried when I was very young. My relationship with my parents and my stepparents has been wonderful. I feel very blessed.
Adoptive Dad? Xavier lost his father when he was 15 and just recently lost his mother. He was very close to both of them.
What attracted you to each other?
For me, it was Xavier's smile and warm heart. Xavier said it was my smile and my eyes.
Please describe your personalities:
Adoptive Mom? Joy is energetic, outgoing and caring.
Adoptive Dad? Xavier is quiet, friendly and creative.
What are your hobbies (please share those you enjoy as individuals and those you enjoy as a couple):
Adoptive Mom? I enjoy working out, scrapbooking and attending art shows.
Adoptive Dad? Xavier enjoys sports, traveling and playing the guitar. As a couple we love to spend time by the pool barbequing with family and friends. We also love dining out and spending quality time at the beach.
When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
My thoughts go to admiration, appreciation and respect.
How will a child enrich your life?
Babies enrich your family, keep you grounded and close. They help you to create beautiful memories and strenthen you as a family unit.
Why did you each choose the career path you decided on?
Adoptive Mom? I was working in retail when I was in college. Early on I learned that i was a great leader and that I had the ability to inspire people as well as develop them. I loved feeling like I made a difference and helped them grow.
Adoptive Dad? I have always been passionate about sciences and art. I graduated from a school of arts as an Architect, which helped develop my skills as a designer and urban planner. The curiosity for sciences kicked in later, so I learned programming languages and computer sciences.