What does "Family Life" mean to you?|
Our life is based upon being surrounded by and sharing time with our loved ones which include not only our immediate family of parents, sisters, brothers, nieces and nephew but an extended family filled with Godchildren, Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, and friends that have become part of our family.
Describe your childhood:
We have been fortunate in being raised in very tight knit and close families. Our strong sense of family was something that we each love about the other.
Adoptive Mom? My childhood was very happy and filled with warm and treasured times spent with my family and most of all my grandparents who we saw every day. Weekends and holidays were especially great as my parents, older sister and younger brother would be at my grandparentís house where my Aunts, Uncles and Cousins would all come together for a visit. Some of my dearest memories involve learning how to cook from my Grandmother.
Adoptive Dad? My childhood was very happy as well and involved spending time with our family. I have a younger brother and sister and we enjoyed taking summer vacations planned by our parents whether it was to the lake, going to fairs or visiting family that lived at a distance. One of my favorite memories is when my Uncle came in for a visit and took us to a ball game. I also enjoyed my Grandmotherís weekend visits and all the things that she would do to make the time together so special.
Tell us about your home?
We have a ranch style three bedroom home with a deck and spacious yard that has a Gazebo that we built together.
When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
If the 3 day weekend is due to a holiday then the time is spent with our family and close friends. During any other long weekend, we like to do a variety of things such as taking a short/day trips with the location depending upon the season; have friends and family over for a BBQ/get together; visit family and friends that live at a distance or just spending time at home together doing things locally.
Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
We have an Orange Wing Amazon Parrot, Danny, who weíve had since he was just a couple of months old. Heís playful and adorable and we love him so much! Heís very much a part of our family. Although Danny loves us both, heís most attached to Vin, who he follows around like a puppy!
What is your favorite food?
We both love pizza.
What do you hope to teach your children?
The best thing that we could hope to teach our child is to be a loving, family oriented and confident person with an appreciation for the importance of education and all it can offer.
Do you play any musical instruments?
We both played instruments in school (I played the flute and clarinet, although not well) and Vin played the bass fiddle. While we enjoy music, neither of us plays an instrument on a regular basis.
Describe your neighborhood?
We live in a comfortable suburban and family oriented neighborhood that is near several parks and the beach.
Share something about your spouse that only you know:
Vin loves a birthday cake mug that was given me. It actually looks like a birthday cake with a "frosting" cover and ceramic candle on top--quite cute. Vin's birthday starts with his coffee being brought to him in our birthday cake mug while singing "Happy Birthday" to him. Vin thinks that's the perfect way to start your birthday. I have to say, he's right!
Deb sings along to songs on the radio when no one else is around. If she doesn't know all the words, she'll just fill in some of her own. That can be quite funny!
Describe the last romantic thing you did together?
Sat together on our couch for some cuddle time.
What will you tell your child about their birthmother?
That she is the very special person who made us a family.
It's Daddy's day - what activity do you want to share with your child?
Depending on the season, go to the park or for a drive in my antique Cadillac. We could also bicycle on the boardwalk if it was nice weather.
Do you plan on sharing with your child what their birth parents were like?
That depends upon the birthparentsí wishes. Some issue, such as health related must be made available when appropriate.
What kind of education are you hoping to provide for your child - Private or Public?
We believe education is very important and will do whatever is necessary for our child to get the best education possible. I went to a Public Elementary and High School and enjoyed the benefits of the academic programs offered. Vin went to a Private Elementary and High School and was pleased with the academic programs offered. We have experienced both paths and will choose the best one for our child.
How did you come to the decision of adoption?
After trying for some time to have a child, we decided upon adoption as the way to have the child that we have been longing for to complete our family.
What faith will you raise your child?
We will raise our child with us in the Catholic faith.
How will you help your child accomplish their dreams?
We believe that the cornerstone to accomplishing your dreams is getting a solid Education. We also hope to raise our child with strong family and life values so that he/she will have the best foundation to becoming a successful and happy person. We will always be there for our child and provide whatever support and encouragement necessary.
What kind of a relationship do you hope to build with your birthmom through her pregnancy?
This depends on her wishes. We would like to be as involved as she feels comfortable in her pregnancy. We will be guided by her wishes.
How did you meet?
We met while we were adversaries on Trial.
What was your relationship with your parents like?
We both share/shared very close relationships with our parents.
What attracted you to each other?
I loved Vinís smile and his sweet nature (and still do). I knew when I met him that he was the one for me. Debís openness and easy going demeanor made it so easy to spend time with her.
Please describe your personalities:
Husband? While I am thorough, I try to be spontaneous too. I am open and fun loving.
Wife? Caring, warm, light hearted and compassionate.
What are your hobbies (please share those you enjoy as individuals and those you enjoy as a couple):
Husband? Woodworking and restoring old cars.
Wife? I enjoy cooking, crafts (such as crocheting, knitting, and sewing), and reading.
As a couple, we enjoy gardening, home projects, and going on trips in Vinís antique car.
When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
Without her that moment would never be possible. She made my most cherished dream come true and for that I am eternally grateful and humbled by her selflessness.
How will a child enrich your life?
Vin and I have always wanted a child. We enjoy spending time with our nieces, nephew, and Godchildren and could not think of anything better than spending time with our own child. A child would complete our family and fill a void in our lives. We have so much love and opportunities to offer our child.
Why did you each choose the career path you decided on?
Husband? I enjoy debating and being an attorney was a natural extension of that.
Wife? I wanted to have a career where I would be able to help people and make a difference in their lives.
What makes a birthmom special?
The ability to make the choice to give her child a different life, no matter how difficult that decision is to make or how much it may hurt, just because thatís the right or best thing to do for her child.