What does "Family Life" mean to you?|
Family Life can refer to many things. It refers to a lifestyle that is responsible and influenced by the family. It can be deciphered as surrounded by those you love, respect and admire. A family life demonstrates pride, trust, and a bond that is unconditional. It is accepting and supportive. A family life or lifestyle is warm and encouraging and in our eyes the only way to be! Family life refers to “togetherness” creating memories and new traditions.
Describe your childhood:
Adoptive Mom? My childhood was full of laughter, love and encouragement. I was made to feel strong and independent. My parents allowed me the freedom to grow as an individual but at the same time were protective and taught me the important lessons in life, morals and values. Education was very important and they encouraged me to be inquisitive. I had a blessed childhood. I was allowed to be creative and exploratory. I loved to hike and play. I loved to play teacher and to dance. My family was supportive of my dreams as well as provided me with the direction in life I needed to succeed!
Adoptive Dad? As a child, I was full of energy. I was involved in sports such as soccer, baseball and gymnastics. I was taught to treat others with kindness and the importance of family. I come from a large Italian family that gets together often. As a child I spent a lot of time playing with my cousins, riding motorcycles, skateboarding and surfing. My Uncle would take us on surf trips where we would camp, surf, and laugh around campfires. These were great times!
Tell us about your home?
Our home was built in the late 60’s so it has a lot of character! We did remodel much of the interior. We have everything from new African Sapele wood floors to a master suite with a spa. The baby’s room has a brand new full bathroom and large closet. It has large plantation shutters that when opened, allows for much natural sunlight! The wood-burning fireplace is off the kitchen where grandparents, aunts and uncles like to gather before a big meal in the dining room! Our home has a spacious floor plan with lots of windows facing our backyard. The backyard has a long green grassy area perfect for running and playing. We have a fountain that creates a peaceful ambiance and a slope filled with beautiful exotic flowers. There are steps that go up the slope that many of the neighborhood kids love to climb! At the top you can feel the ocean breeze! Our neighborhood is family oriented where everyone knows one another. We have parks walking distance from our home as well as a high achieving elementary school (where Kimberly works). You will always find mothers walking with their strollers or children riding their bikes out front. It is a lovely community!
When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
We like to either host a BBQ with family and friends or travel to my father’s resort in Texas. We might even take a road trip. There are so many places to visit in the state we live.
Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
We have 2 dogs. Saki is a Malimute and very smart! She is quite beautiful and everyone who sees her stops to admire her. Chewy is a Pekingnese. She is 5 years old and still acts like a puppy. She keeps Saki very busy! They love to run at the local parks or on the beach. Their favorite thing is to just be with us. They love to bask in the sun while we work in the yard. They are very much a part of our family!
What is your favorite food?
We love Mexican food and Japanese food. Actually, we love food in general. We make sauce on Sundays and often have the family over for an Italian meal. This is a tradition that has been a part of both of our families. I like to buy organic fruits and vegetables and try to maintain a healthy lifestyle as much as possible.
What do you hope to teach your children?
We hope that our children will learn to be independent, strong and thoughtful. We want our children to be generous and understanding. We want them to learn the importance of a good education, leadership skills, to have dignity and self- respect. We want our child to know right from wrong, have empathy towards others, have a strong work ethic and be able to make good decisions. We want our child to learn to love and to accept.
Do you play any musical instruments?
Jared plays a little guitar. I have tried to play the piano like my mother, but unfortunately I did not inherit the musical gene!
Describe your neighborhood?
Please see question 3.
Share something about your spouse that only you know:
Husband? My wife clicks in her sleep.
Wife? My husband secretly wishes he were a professional golf player!
Describe the last romantic thing you did together?
We picked out a Xmas tree together!
What will you tell your child about their birthmother?
That she is the most selfless person I know. A hero to us! If it weren’t for her, I would feel incomplete and I couldn’t imagine a life without the gift she gave to us.
It's Daddy's day - what activity do you want to share with your child?
Building sand castles at the beach, building something together to display, riding bikes and tossing a ball around is always fun too! We would end the day by cooking sauce together. Everyone gets to contribute!
Do you plan on sharing with your child what their birth parents were like?
I plan to share that they were brave and very special people. I would share that they chose Daddy and I to raise them because we were full of love and they knew we couldn’t make a baby on our own. I would answer their questions as they arose. I feel that honesty is a key factor in raising a child.
What kind of education are you hoping to provide for your child - Private or Public?
Our public schools in our community are top scoring and well known. Children from outside of our community are on waiting lists to get into our local public schools. The PTA is very involved and the teachers are very well developed and trained on the latest programs and teaching strategies!
How did you come to the decision of adoption?
We could not have children of our own. We tried for a long time. We went as far as expensive infertility treatments such as IVF three times.
What faith will you raise your child?
I am Jewish and my husband is Christian. We will educate our child of both religions. We plan to answer their questions to the best of our ability. He or she will be well informed of our religious beliefs and will be able to choose what they wish to believe in when they are an adult. Regardless, we look forward to our many holiday traditions as a family!
How will you help your child accomplish their dreams?
We will be very supportive emotionally and financially and help by providing direction to meet their personal goals. We want our child to feel that they can accomplish anything!
What kind of a relationship do you hope to build with your birthmom through her pregnancy?
We will be there for her as she wishes through the pregnancy. We would like to be informed of her doctor visits and be updated as often as possible on the progress of her pregnancy.
How did you meet?
We met at a restaurant. We made a connection right away. Jared stopped at my table to talk with me on his way out. He ended up staying a little while longer.
What was your relationship with your parents like?
Jared and I are both close with our parents. They still play a significant role in our lives. They are all looking forward to becoming grandparents. This will be their first grandchild!
What attracted you to each other?
If you ask my husband this question, he would say my eyes. Apparently, it was my eyes that caught his attention in the first place. I would say I was attracted to Jared right away. He is very handsome and has a very sweet personality!
Please describe your personalities:
Husband? Jared is calm, level headed and enjoys living in the moment. He is loving and very affectionate. He can be goofy at times yet serious when he needs to be. He is generous and kind.
Wife? Kimberly is driven and motivated. She is the planner in the family. She is loving and affectionate as well as compassionate towards others. She enjoys laughing and is very patient.
What are your hobbies (please share those you enjoy as individuals and those you enjoy as a couple):
Husband? Jared enjoys surfing, golfing, and basketball.
Wife? Kimberly enjoys reading, walking, and getting together with friends.
Together we enjoy cooking, a short game of golf and taking the dogs to the park.
When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Immense amounts of gratitude will flood my mind when I think about the birthmother’s acts of selflessness, kindness and bravery.
How will a child enrich your life?
A child will bring much joy to our lives. A child will create the family we have always wanted and literally make life more beautiful. We look forward to all the things we will do together as a family as well as all the places we will travel. A child will make everything we do more exciting and interesting. We look forward to watching our child grow as they take in the world with their innocent adoring and inquisitive eyes.
Why did you each choose the career path you decided on?
Husband? Jared chose to follow the career path of his father. He had many opportunities to learn and grow as an equipment operator/ contractor.
Wife? Kimberly was born a teacher. She has always had a passion for teaching. As a child she played school having a full classroom in the basement with student/ doll desks, a chalkboard, books and a flag. She always loved children, and children have always responded positively to her. She graduated college with a degree in Education and Special Education as well as earned her teaching degrees in both. Later, she earned higher degrees in the areas of education; curriculum design and literacy.
What makes a birthmom special?
A birthmom is special for many reasons. The ability to carry a child in our eyes is special within itself. The ability to make the decision to place their baby up for adoption is the most exceptional of all. Creating a life and then giving that life to a loving couple who long to be parents knowing they could not make a baby on their own is the most unbelievable act of intelligence and kindness. The birthmother is an extraordinary person in our eyes!