Tell us about your home? |
We live in a 3-bedroom, 2.5 bath townhouse near a small downtown central business district. It's around 2300 square foot. We bought the townhome in 2013 and gutted it to the rafters so everything is brand new. We have lived here since June of 2014. Our neighborhood is full of extremely friendly people, we share a complex with two condo towers. There are tennis courts, 2 swimming pools and 2 gyms. They are in the tower area, but we have access to them. Our home faces a marina and we have a 60' boat slip, but no boat! Security and safety is of utmost importance to us!
When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?
Well, painting is my first passion lately, and that's a big stress reliever. I also meditate for 10 minutes at least once a day. I workout in the mornings and I love to walk the beach or the bridge. When we do socialize, we usually go to some kind of cultural event or out to eat with friends. We both love to read! It's one of our favorite things and it would be a HUGE priority for our child to become an avid reader.
Do you have pets? If so tell us about them?
Yes, we have two short-hair domestic tabbies, Lulu (13) and Mini (7ish). Lulu is SO sweet and loving, if you are sitting, she's on your lap. Mini is more independent and playful, but when she gets in love mode, she will let you pet her and scratch her while she purrs up a storm!
What do you hope to teach your children?
Love, trust,compassion, forgiveness, to have good ethics and character and how to fly with their own wings.
Describe your neighborhood?
We live at the edge of a central business district, our townhome faces a marina. Nearby there is the beautiful bay, small Botanical garden, several parks with playgrounds, and the main street.
What will you tell your child about their birthmother?
We will do our best to answer any questions with assurances that the birth mother put this child's welfare and health ahead of her own. For whatever reason, she did not have the ability to care for the child herself, so she lovingly gave the child up for adoption. She always will love the child, and she will always wish the child grows up happy and healthy.
It's Daddy's day - what activity do you want to share with your child?
Well, Daddy is a HUGE Starwars fan, and also a huge baseball fan, so more than likely, something related to that. We would probably serve a nice breakfast, prepare a homemade gift for him and make him feel like the loved and special man that he is.
What kind of education are you hoping to provide for your child - Private or Public?
We will guide our child's education and support him/her to go as far as they want to go. As both of us have made it to earning a Master's degree, that is not out of reach for our child. As long as the public school earns an A grade, we will do our best to keep them in public, if that is not possible, we will enroll them in private.
How did you come to the decision of adoption?
I have never thought of adoption as a big deal in terms of having "your own" child or assuming the parenting role for someone else's child. I will not differentiate the two. We did try to conceive a child before my parents became ill, but my father was an OB/GYN fertility specialist. After 3 miscarriages in a year and a half, he expressed how I might damage my health and kidney trying to carry a baby. I plan to put the same effort and commitment I would if our child were biologically mine. Our child will be loving, kind, fair, compassionate, educated and generous of heart and soul. Our child will know self-love. Our child will be our number one priority.
What faith will you raise your child?
I have taken refuge in Buddhism. Out of all religions, the beliefs and philosophies resonate the most with me. Although, I think whatever brings you to God and Spirit is great and fine with me. My husband was raised Catholic, but is no longer very religious either, but boy, his mother is! As for how my beliefs will factor into child-rearing, I hope to teach my child to be loving, compassionate, kind, generous and forgiving. I will aim to show them that there is a higher power that guides and protects us. I will teach them about the powerful effects of karma and to always treat others how you would want to be treated.
My approach to relationship difficulties is to communicate, resolve, forgive and move on. Not to hold a grudge or hate in your heart. We all have to love and support each other. I hope to imbue those qualities in my child.
What kind of a relationship do you hope to build with your birthmom through her pregnancy?
My heart will come from a place of compassion towards the birth parents. What an amazing and generous sacrifice they are making for their child. I hope they will know they have made the right choice and placed their child in loving and caring hands.
How did you meet?
Roberto and I met in graduate architecture school, we were great friends for the first few years till that drifted into a romance. He came over to Rome to propose to me on our spring break while I was in the Rome Program.
When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
Gratitude comes into mind first, that the birth mother's love for this child took higher precedent than her own happiness. I wish her happiness, peace in knowing she placed her child in loving, caring, reliable hands.
How will a child enrich your life?
We would like to have something more important than ourselves to look after. We would like to help grow a life in a positive, loving, bountiful way, to pour all our love on your child and all the wisdom we've gained.